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Tuesday, October 28, 2008,3:17 PM

My Reflection and Interpretation on "The Five Love Languages"

Was browsing through my colleague's blog and came across this website that she posted.
http://www.sharedpaths.com/personal-growth-tools/5lovelanguages.html

Well, it is interesting to note that these are essentially the 5 simple things that you have to do to keep a relationship going. Not just boy-girl relationship but also applies to relationship between colleagues, teacher-pupil relationship too.

Have been reflecting.... I think I have used at least 4 of the "Love Languages" with my pupils haha! The first one: Words of Affirmation. Well, I have tried to ORAISE my pupils... instead of always scolding them... telling them that they can make it if they try and some do respond better... I guess some still needed these kind of encouragement the most.

The second one: Quality Time. With only 1 hour with them a day... I think ALL the time I spent with them is Quality Time... you see, there is NO time to waste, my undivided attention spreading to all 28/35/24 pupils, depending on my class size... the thing is there is LITTLE TIME TO WASTE, of cos quality time!

The third one: Recieving Gifts. I take it that this means "bribery". Children being children loves gifts. I am all for this mode of encouragement - giving them little gifts to commend on their good work done throughout the term. I guess all human needs some sort of extrinstic rewards... it just makes everything measureable and more meaningful. I am an adult, so I go for the intrinstic rewards. I guess if they have made improvement, that would be the best gift ever!

The fourth one: Acts of Service. Not sure if you have heard of this. "Students are our customers. " They are the ones that recieved the full impact of our service (teachers)... we need to make sure they like our service. Many times, it's out of kindness, though part of it is obligation as it my job, but I SINCERELY teach without expecting anything in return... the only return is for THEM to have good results. It is all about our pupils....

Well, the fifth one: Physical Touch. I guess this cannot be exercised on my pupils. We CANNOT touch them, though a simple pat on the back or a handshake to congratulate the wining group should be acceptable.

All these play a part in a relationship. I have reflected and I'm glad I have at least tried them daily.... It is simple but have you done it? Why not take some time to reflect?